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Getting unstuck

Day 5: What advice would you give for getting unstuck?

Getting unstuck.  Right up my life coaching alley.

But, usually when I coach someone through getting unstuck, it's in fluid dialogue and we brain storm together.  And, it deals with their current reality.

Since we can't do that here.  I'll give you some things that I do to get unstuck, and see if they will help you or trigger some creativity of your own.  You find your rhythm.

When I'm stuck, I get "unstuck" by:

  1. Change my routine.  This may mean going to a different coffee shop in a different part of town...to do work, have some meetings or check some emails or simply try a new seat and a new brew and open my journal.
  2. Change my perspective.  When I'm stuck, it's because I get tunnel vision, I'm thinking to linear and I'm losing the big picture.  So, to help cure this, I'll go to a different part of my city to pray, or get a high up view of a landmark in town or a panorama view of my city.
  3. Get out a pen and paper.  Almost all of my tools are digital.  Sometimes I get stuck using them.  So, I get out my paper journal and favorite pen, then boom, I start writing and drawing and doodling and before you know it, I have more clarity and direction on my goals and projects.
  4. Read a book.  And I don't mean just any book either.  I mean one totally outside of your normal reading.  One that you'd never pick up because it has nothing to do with your business, clients, job, organization, etc...but that's the point, fresh new thinking and perspective like #2, and it helps get you unstuck.
  5. Skype a friend.  Without a doubt, this never fails.  My friend will say, "hey bro, what project you working on these days" and then I'm off and explaining it, saying where I'm stuck, then wham-o, it happens, I arrive at some clarity, I get unstuck by talking it out...

So, those are 5 simple strategies I use to get unstuck. 

I think they can apply not only to your work but to fitness, nutrition, relationships, or anything else as well.  For example, if you are any friend of hitting the weight room, you know about Plateaus.  It's being stuck.  So, what do you do?  You change your routine, #1 above. 

It applies to many facets of life.

Go get unstuck.

Leave some comments of your own strategies.

 

Teach us something you do well...

Day 4: Teach us something that you do well.

And, that's the problem.  I feel like I don't do "something" or just "one" thing well that I could teach you right now.

I do what feels like a hundred things not well, but good enough and "just in time." 

When I see a need, I spend every waking hour and extra minute I find researching that thing.  Then, when I feel like I have good enough comprehension of it and the required skills, I share what I've learned as fast as I can.

I guess it's the nature of an Entrepreneur and especially a Social Entrepreneur, which is the very nature of my work.  It's not the industrial revolution anymore, we don't produce a "product."

What we do now is "emotional labor."  Okay, I think I'm chasing a rabbit.  More on that later maybe.  Read Seth for now.

For Example:

  • I'm helping with the planning of two benefit concerts for this spring...(I had to learn how to do that on the go)
  • I'm trying to figure out how to help my local coffee shop (Starbucks) tell a better story with their store.  (learning that on the go too, with my new and growing coaching experiences and skills)
  • In that same store, we've started two groups, a third one on the way, of people exploring together the Christian faith...(I'm always learning from these wonderful groups of diverse people)
  • I'm learning photography with a Canon and iMovie editing...
  • Learning how to get stronger and conditioned and fit in less time but with greater gains.  (I've been researching that heavy for a few weeks now)
  • I'm meeting with a Politician next Friday to discuss how to move forward in helping my city deal with some serious social issues...(How do you meet with a Politician? I will take that on the go too ;-)
  • I'm learning to coach flag football for 6-9 year olds, well, and in German...(I've coached before yes, and I'm a certified football coach, but flag? In a foreign language?  Let that sink in on the learn scale)

So, the list could go on.  I don't really do one thing well.  I do a lot of things, and I have to come up with the skills and knowledge to do them on the fly, with tons of reading, and asking everyone I trust a million questions...and then go "do" it!

Back to my original point I guess. 

Be a learner.  And well, be "well" at adapting...I guess I just accidentally taught you some how to do that, well.  I'm getting tongue tied.

And, if you're keeping up with this journal and the #yourturnchallenge, you'll also notice I'm learning to blog well, and your watching that one unfold post by post.

Go get good at stuff.  And unlike me, focus, get good at that "it", and teach others.  I believe in you.

Till day 5's question, happy doing.

 

Day 3 and still going.

Day 3: Tell us about something that you think should be improved

That is the writing prompt for today.

I can't think of anything world changing off the top of my head right now, but I can talk about "who" should be improved, and that's yourself.  I mentioned this a little bit in my day 1 post.

I love this guy.  Michael Hyatt.  He is one of the main reasons I created this website and blog as a space for my own platform.  I'll probably refer to him a lot in other posts as well.

So, about improving "yourself."  You can't pour into others or serve them well if you yourself aren't fueled up.  In our organization we talk a lot about being "dehydrated" or "inner dehydration."

In the Life Planning eBook by Michael Hyatt, He writes about this well while explaining how to order or prioritize your "Accounts" in life, or as I like to refer to them, your "roles."

Go ahead, Improve yourself.

  • Read books on different leadership topics so you can easily share that knowledge and grow as a coaching leader or mentor.
  • Take classes, go to conferences, get your Masters Degree in your area of work so you are constantly improving and are more competent in your job.  How good to others is a non-learning dumb boss or employee?
  • Take care of your body, eat good, exercise.  What good am I to my family if I'm gone?
  • Get to sleep and get enough of it.  When I don't, which is far to often, everything is thrown out of rhythm.  When I'm rested, I'm not grumpy and groggy, which is better for others in meetings and interaction.  Who want to be around a slothful Kirk?
  • Take regular personal retreats.  My practice is at least one full day a quarter and 3-4 days a year.

It has been three years since I've started this discipline.  Every time I've returned a better follower of Christ, a better Husband, a better dad, and a better leader.  I get refreshed.  I get re-inspired, I invest in myself so I can continue to invest in others.  My wife says "I need you to take these personal retreats"  it makes everything else function so well and right in our lives.

My first one was in Vancouver Canada, then Last year in Prague, and this year in London.  I'll write more posts and give some resources for you to take later on this topic.

But, improve yourself.  It's not selfish, it is actually loving.  It is what makes you a better human for all those in your circle that are depending on you for it.

Day 3.  Improve your already awesome you, be more awesome.

Side Note (Resource):  Check below

The very first time I thought about writing my own life plan, I found out about Michael's free eBook to walk you through the process.  Get your copy here, and start planning your life instead of reacting.  If you need help walking through it, just contact me.

Here's to Day three and still going. 

What's important to me?

So, here it is, Day 2 of the #yourturnchallenge...I made it back to post again, YES!

Day 2: Tell us about something that’s important to you.

(from Your Turn Challenge blog, some questions to get the writing juices flowing)

Man, what a question.  I can think of a 100 things that are important to me, but I'll pick "something."

As I thought about the lessons I've learned most from other leaders, I realized something that I place a high value on in leaders and in myself. 

I've observed so many leaders up close and daily, and others from a distance, but this theme keeps surfacing as very important to me and what I've learned from the most inspiring, faithful, and successful leaders.

--BE A LEARNER--

That's it. 

That is something that is very important to me.  Without it, the leaders I observed, started having less of an influence on me.  When I observed this characteristic in others, it was clear why I was more drawn to them and willing to listen and learn from them.  Some, and mostly all of them now, outside of my own tribe

So, it's the attitude and mindset I have tried to maintain in all of my Roles in my organization, family, and tribe. 

I want to be a life long learner...

Face it, you don't know it all.  There's always something we can learn, even from those people or situations we don't totally agree with.  Be a change maker, be a life long learner, and inspire those you influence to do the same.

After all, who likes a "one upper" anyway?

Here is my current reading in an area I'm passionate about, but still have a lot to LEARN...

Here, learn a TON from Jerred Moon with me.

and, check this out, it might make me lucky ;-)

 

#yourturnchallenge

Here is what it is.  A challenge.

I'm doing it because It is pushing me to achieve my goal of writing. 

Writing what? 

All the things I want to articulate and share about being a Catalyst, Coach, and Storyteller, as well as tips on being a practical leader.

I needed this push.  I needed another call to action.  Another inciting incident.  But this time, with a like-minded community.

And, I just posted about "poke the box"...It is time I poke my own.

As a coach, I'm always cheering on others to push their limits, to not listen to fear and to fight resistance and status-quo.  It's my sweet spot and something I love.

But, as a result, sometimes I forget to coach myself, to tell myself those same things and fight the resistance not to poke or cause a ruckus or ship.  Thanks to my amazing wife, she reminded me yet again, so I am going for it. 

Join me on this 7 day journey and challenge.  Who knows what will happen after these 7 straight days of posting.  Will I post twice a week or three times a week...who knows, and that doesn't matter yet, what does is that I'm posting today. 

If you're an intentional leader out there reading this, I know you pour in to others all the time, I know you mentor well and you give and you share and you teach...But don't forget, believe also in you.  Invest in yourself so you can continue to invest in others, well, and with quality, and last doing it...

Consider our own advice, and let us act.  See you tomorrow.  It is (our) your turn!

More info here:  http://yourturnchallenge.strikingly.com/

Leadership is...

Leadership is the courage to put oneself at risk

Leadership is the passion to make a difference with others

Leadership is being dissatisfied with the current reality

Leadership is taking responsibility while others are making excuses

Leadership is seeing the possibilities in a situation while others are seeing the limitations

Leadership is the willingness to stand out in a crowd

Leadership is an open mind and an open heart

Leadership is the ability to submerge your ego for the sake of what is best

Leadership is evoking in others the capacity to dream

Leadership is inspiring others with a vision of what they can contribute

Leadership is the power of the one made many and the many made one

Leadership is your heart speaking to the hearts of others

Leadership is the integration of heart, head, and soul

Leadership is the capacity to care, and in caring, to liberate the ideas, energy, and capacities of others

Leadership is the dream made reality

-John C. Maxwell Quoted from the Introduction in Leadership Gold